Jun 30 2010

The Tumbleweed & The Street Lamp

The recent news of Al and Tipper Gore divorcing after 40 years of marriage has sparked a national conversation on matrimony, a particularly resonant topic for me at the moment.

You see: I’m on the other side of the spectrum. I am getting divorced after a mere eight months of saying “I Do.” Despite the brevity of my union, it still hurts like a dart to the heart and I am extremely embarrassed. With that said – I can only imagine what the Gores are feeling. They have lived a public life on a global stage, survived a presidential campaign, and raised a few children. Not to mention the wealthy assets and property they have amassed through the years that will have to be divided upon their separation.

Dwelling on the elements of their unfortunate reality has made me look inward and take a new perspective on the collapse of my own short-term nuptials. Fortunately, we didn’t have any kids and we only own one house, but the whole endeavor has still spawned a surplus of questions: Did I dodge a bullet and ease the pain by folding in the cards before a year? How would I feel if I spent the better half of my life with my wife and our love crumbled after several decades? What exactly constitutes a successful marriage?

Those who know me were extremely surprised when I first told them I was getting married. I’m talking shocked – like the first time Screech saw Jesse naked pole-dancing in Showgirls. I was not the settling down type. My best friend and I would constantly joke that “marriage is not a word – it’s a sentence.” The truth is, I fell in love like a lot of young people do – fast and furious on a crowded dance floor in a trendy Boston bar. My grandmother had always warned me that lightning would strike one day, and I had gotten electrocuted over the head with a fierce bolt. We moved in together within a few months and took a luxurious vacation to Europe, I proposed on a Lite-Brite in the lobby of her office building three weeks later. I took the bulk of my life savings and bought her an overpriced rock and used a huge chunk for a down-payment on a new construction townhouse. We spent the entire summer planning this majestic and innovative wedding and the legwork actually was worth it. The event was a smash success and exceeded my expectations. I always said if I was going to get married I wanted something out of this world – like fireworks, fire eaters, and midget-tossing. I settled on a breathtaking museum venue, personalized paintings, and a Frank Sinatra lounge singer. No midgets were thrown and fire was absent.

We spent our honeymoon at a top-notch resort in Jamaica – drinking kegs of frozen cocktails, eating jerk chicken, and getting massaged by freakishly strong Rastafarian women. It was an exciting and passionate love affair and I’m sure if we outlined the life details of the Gores it would sound even more captivating. So what went wrong?

My situation perhaps is a bit more transparent. We were what a friend referred to as “the tumbleweed and the street lamp.” At least on paper. I am a social butterfly who has had the same friends since high school. I love adventure, vacations, and constant stimuli. I also don’t work in the corporate world. I am an aspiring novelist and independent publicist who never knows where his next paycheck is coming. I’m laid back, creative, and athletic. She is a meticulous and successful accountant for a major healthcare firm. Her ideal night is lying on the couch, watching Gilmore Girls, and planning the intricate details of her retirement plans while she calculates how much it would cost to add crown molding to the den. I guess the bottom line is that sometimes opposites don’t attract. For the record: I didn’t want the divorce and there was no one else involved.

But the Gores? Life partners for four decades. Like-minded activists. Proud parents of four successful children. How did their long love fade like a crayon tattoo in a downpour? When we wrote our own vows and announced them in front of our family and friends – I believed what I said and I was ready to honor them. But when the idea of being locked down to someone for eternity causes supreme anxiety and depression – in today’s hyper-stimulated world is it wrong to want to run for the hills?

Strangely, although I am financially, spiritually, and romantically wounded beyond repair, I don’t regret the entire experience. I joke with friends that I have pulled a Men In Black and flashed my brain of all past memories. But the truth is, marriage is difficult and complicated. Whether it’s a few months long or several decades. It’s like a plant that has to be constantly watered. Mine died on the vine and failed, but so do half the marriages in America. There is an old saying: “If practice makes perfect – how come nobody is perfect?”

I’m OK with having a Cindy Crawford-like mole on my reputation. If Al Gore can endure and persevere after such an extensive relationship – so can I. Sure I don’t have his money or recycling skills, but I have a cool Boston accent and when I say “Havad Yad” chicks dig it.

I wonder though, since he invented The Internet – does he gets preferential treatment on Match.com?

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Josh Mitchell on Fogged Clarity

Josh Mitchell received his degree in journalism from Roger Williams University in Bristol, Rhode Island. Pissing On The Pulse Of The Planet, his non-fiction collection, was released by Yellow Moon Press in 2008. He lives and writes in Boston, where he runs his own boutique PR company Wickid Pissa Publicity.


Mar 30 2010

Birth Rate

When I was eighteen I began to carry a condom in my wallet. I can’t recall where I got it, because I had a paralyzing fear of buying them. This anxiety extended to bringing it around with me. I imagined someone going through my wallet, pulling it out and giving me a skeptical look. “What’s this?” they’d ask.

“Optimism,” I’d cleverly reply. They would chuckle and give me a you old rogue look and we’d both go about our day. If only I were as witty in real life as I am in my head.

Maybe a week after I started carrying it, I met my step brother and step father for lunch at the Boston College cafeteria. I’d just come from the gym, where I pretended to lift weights while staring at girls on treadmills. I was wearing athletic shorts without any pockets, and I absentmindedly put my wallet on the table. During our meal my step brother, Hale, began to casually rifle through it. Inevitably, he came across that little blue plastic wrapper, pulled it out, and snickered. I shook my head subtly. He then burst out into a quiet fit of laughter and put it back. My stepfather pretended not to notice. When I got back to my room, I took it out and slammed it in a drawer. That was the last time I kept a condom in my wallet, and I soon forgot about it. It wasn’t until several years later, at the tender age of twenty-one, that I would have to reopen that metaphorical drawer.

***

I’ve never hyperventilated before, so I can only assume that’s what I’m doing now. I’m sitting in the intern corner at work, trying to go through my usual morning routine of reading all the articles on ESPNsoccernet. Razan, my Middle Eastern co-intern from Boston University looks across the table, concerned. I am a little nervous around her, because I am from New Hampshire, where everyone is white. We have never talked about our lives outside of work. I’m not sure whether to confide in her or start sobbing hysterically. I can’t even look at Steven Gerrard celebrate his goal on the screen in front of me. I’m pretty sure my life is over.

“Umm… is everything okay?” she asks. I think she’s noticed that I’ve sweat through my button-down shirt. I really admire those strong stoic types that can suffer in silence, but it’s not a skill I have.

“Yes. No. Actually, I may have gotten someone pregnant.”

Razan is shocked. I think mostly at the idea of me having sex.

“Okay. Calm down. I’m sure you didn’t. What happened?”

I go to great lengths to avoid sharing sexual details with any girl, never mind one I barely speak to, so I try valiantly to leave out anything that would garner a PG-13 rating.

***

I just got back from Birthright. This is the free trip to Israel even secular Jews like me are invited to go on, with the hopes that we will mate like bunnies. The guest speaker on the second day joked, “It’s not Birthright, its birth rate.” At least we thought he was joking until we saw that the trip leader had an entire backpack full of condoms.

On the second night we heard the youngest member of our forty person group having very loud sex in her room with one of the soldiers who accompanied us. We laughed, but I think we were all a little traumatized. It was a bonding moment.

This is where I met Janie, the twenty-six-year-old divorced mother of one, who would be attached to my hip for twelve days. Janie is from Dallas. I didn’t know there were Jews in Dallas. She teaches elementary school there, loves her daughter and hates her ex-husband. I play Grand Theft Auto IV in the middle of the day, usually while drunk, and still call “fives” whenever I get up from a seat. One of my roommates once stole my seat after I did this, and I almost threw him down a staircase. I take it very seriously. Also, they don’t have “that’s what she said” in Dallas, which is my go-to response to just about everything. This limited our ability to communicate.

I was sitting next to her on the tour bus while she explained in frustration why every other guy was too short, fat, skinny, taken, or alcoholic to be her fling for the trip.

“Hmm… ” I said.

“Geoff’s really cute,” she told me, “too bad he has a girlfriend.”

“Yeah,” I agreed, staring at the desert outside the window. I turned up the air conditioner.

“Too bad you’re not a little older,” she said, giving me a sisterly pat.

“Geoff is like four months older than I am.” Janie pretended not to hear. I turned on my iPod. Eventually, reluctantly, I invited her to join in watching Arrested Development. She laughed at all the wrong parts.

Janie warmed up to me soon after that. Maybe it was my witty references to fantastic video games like Call of Duty and Bioshock. Maybe it was the 35 to 5 girl to guy ratio. Either way, it was clear by the third day that we were an item, though we hadn’t hooked up. We spent almost every moment together, except when I intentionally hiked faster to get away. By the fifth day of the trip I was beginning to question the value of a relationship with someone who complained about shopping and teaching and divorce and alcoholism and all those adult things I didn’t care about, when I could be talking about myself with Geoff and Dave.

On the sixth day Janie and I were napping in a hammock by the Dead Sea. I was tired out from a twenty minute water-treading competition I’d had with a freakishly athletic girl that ended in a draw, called on account of boredom. I had just enough energy left to hook up. I shared this thought with her. We agreed to go back to the room.

Dave walked up to us, carrying beer. “Hey guys, wanna play cards and get drunk?”

“Definitely,” I said, forgetting about sex.

A few days later, we got to a kibbutz on the Israel-Lebanon border just before sundown on the Sabbath. Aware that we had just minutes to buy alcohol before the stores closed for thirty-six hours, but unaware of where they were, we ran around the kibbutz like blind, flaming rabbits. I experienced the unique pain that comes from sprinting uphill in flip-flops. We got to the only store with minutes to spare and bought a four-dollar Alaskan vodka that I have never seen in the U.S. and hope never to see again. Geoff, Dave and I polished this off in short order, and complemented it with liver-shriveling amounts of barely-drinkable Israeli beer.

Afterwards, we gathered outside one of the rooms in plastic chairs, where every guy besides me demonstrated an impressive ability to play the guitar. I debated trying to play the first three chords of “Seven Nation Army,” which had taken me weeks to learn, but I still couldn’t get them quite right. I opted instead to subtly hint to Janie that we should go back to my room: “HEY! LET”S HOOK UP!”

She told me she didn’t hook up with guys when they were drunk. I had trouble processing this, possibly because of the Alaskan vodka. I tried to explain that I didn’t hook up when sober, but she was unmoved. It didn’t help my case that I was having trouble forming sentences. She started to hint at something depressing involving her ex-husband. I squirmed uncomfortably in my green plastic chair.

It wasn’t until after we returned from Israel that Janie gave in to my suggestions of sex. Her flight to Dallas from Boston was delayed until the next morning, so we went back to my apartment. After introducing her to my roommates, we went to my bedroom. I decided not to mention I was a virgin. The last time I’d done that, the girl I was making out with had laughed at me and called me creepy. Instead, I made a series of educated guesses, based on a combination of the internet and late-night HBO specials.

I unwrapped a condom for the first time in my life and stared at it in confusion. I wrestled with it for around a minute before tentatively deciding I’d put it on correctly. Holding it was unsettling enough, so I didn’t want to look too closely. Meanwhile, I tried vainly to look nonchalant, like I struggled with condoms all the time. I rolled my eyes and said something about the inferior design of this particular brand. I hadn’t yet had it, but I’d already decided that sex was the most awkward, terrible thing in the world.

Some people might want their first times to be magical-candlelit-romances. They are girls. At twenty-one I just wanted there to be a first time. I found soccer posters to be a more-than-adequate substitute for candles, though I could feel Steven Gerrard’s eyes on me the entire time. After seven minutes of awkward exertion, I mentally gave myself a B + overall and an A for effort. I added a few points for managing to keep my shirt on the entire time. Not a bad result, considering I only knew one sexual position, and was afraid to try any others. I sheepishly told her not to look while I wrapped a towel around my waist and sprinted for the shower.

When I got out, for reasons that are now unclear to me, I wandered upstairs to the common room. My roommate Mara was sitting watching TV.

“Did you guys just have sex?” she asked, disgusted. Mara had a very low opinion of anyone who found me attractive.

“Nope,” I lied. She looked at me suspiciously.

“Biddy was loud,” she told me. She shuddered to accentuate her revulsion. Mara was very dramatic.

“I want to watch Scrubs.”

“Too bad.”

Disgruntled, I returned downstairs to find the evidence of my inexperience and poor condom selection.

“Maybe you should take the morning-after pill,” I suggested, suddenly learning I was pro-choice. I was pretty sure the morning after pill was something I had heard of before.

“Oh,” Janie replied, “I don’t believe in that. If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be.” I could and maybe should have mentioned the obvious ideological conflicts that mentality has with the use of condoms and birth control.

“Hmm. . . ” I said instead.

“You know,” said Janie, looking around, “your room is actually kind of gross.” I followed her gaze to the wall, where large swaths of black mold were growing next to the headboard of my bed.

“I don’t know what you’re talking about,” I said. I thought about returning to the birth control debate, but I hated arguing and I was tired. I turned off the light and fell asleep.

The next morning she woke me up to say goodbye. “Nnnnghhh” I said, and went back to sleep. It was a storybook parting.

My cell phone alarm woke me up three hours later, playing the James Bond theme song. For one precious moment I had no idea where or who I was. I took a deep breath, then threw on a pair of tattered jeans and a button-down shirt and biked to work.

***

A couple years earlier I walked into my step brother’s room when I got up for school and saw that the ceiling had collapsed onto his bed. After checking to make sure he wasn’t in it, I went to inform my step father that there was massive flooding in our house and went to school, thinking “this is not my problem.” He was impressed, confusing indifference with composure.

I would like to have retained even a sliver of that composure now. This is very much my problem. Janie has to stay in Texas because she has joint custody of her daughter. I will have to move to Dallas, abandon all my friends, and go somewhere where the most popular sport was, until very recently, lynching. Everything is shittier in Texas. I finish relating my tragic tale to Razan, having unsuccessfully tried to avoid using the word “sex” at any point.

“Well, she was on the pill, right?” asks Razan. I have a vague idea of what the pill is.

“Yeah,” I say, Googling ‘birth control.’

“Then you’re fine.” Birth control, Google tells me, is 92-99.7% effective, depending on how regular the girl is taking it. But I consider even a one-in-a-thousand chance a reasonable one in a poker tournament. I fervently hope my little soldiers are worse at swimming than I am at cards.

I look pleadingly at Razan. She can see I’m not comforted by our Google forays.

“Look,” she says, “why don’t you write her a message asking her to let you know when she finds out?”

This strikes me as entirely inappropriate to do over Facebook. I navigate to her profile and send her a message. With Razan’s help I get through the day without stress-puking. Back home, I am watching Scrubs when my roommate Josh walks in.

“Did you have sex last night?”

“Nope.”

“Dude I saw a condom in the trash can.”

“Then, yes.”

“Gross.” I get up and turn the TV off as I head downstairs. This is a habit that infuriates Josh, as I do it regardless of whether someone else is watching TV at the time.

I make my way to my bedroom and look into the trash. The condom is sitting there, half covered by a bag of Nacho Bugels. Judging me. Broken, because I put it on the wrong way.

“Fuck you,” I whisper. I sit down and wonder what will happen to me.

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Gabriel Duran studied creative writing at Boston College. His writing has appeared in Polyphony Online. He works as a video editor and freelance production assistant in Boston.

Dec 30 2009

A Sketch of the Artist as Ephebe

Lots of influence. Lots of anxiety. The graduation photo that once stood on the baby grand stuffed into the small living room on the sixth floor just beneath the ash-dropping chimney of the incinerator shows a 16-year old with clear eyes and the carved features of some unknown, handsome youth. Somehow it does not show the acne, although an-aged writer sees in his shaving mirror today its faint scarred pittings. Neither does that picture reveal the sturm und drang about to erupt from a nascent selfhood, or suggest that those eyes, distracted by glimpses of unexpected Beauty, are already beginning to burn with a desire to find and hold whatever appears to manifest it. What might suggest, perhaps reveal it in moments promising to be unendurable? Poetry.

Well, yes. But where was the idea of Beauty (again that majuscule “B”) to be found incarnate in the Bronx in the mid-Nineteen Forties? For me it was in Wallace Stevens. The somehow moral structure of the æsthetic: whatever was sensuous, sinuously ineffable, transitory as wind, the gaiety of grand speech, the colloquially sublime manifested in undulant sentences, wave after wave of free-floating clauses, passionate yet detached, buried or sublimed in the intellectual, the skeptical and ironic: là bas, là bas …. Such range of language, such nuance; such an elegant, elaborate, secure sensibility, in and through which reality itself was marvelous yet etherealized into the music of an utterance far removed from the grungy quotidian of the Bronx, the filth of roaring Manhattan’s million grimed windowpanes, its old soot-filmed black and brown stone.

Still, this ephebe was not that ephebe whom the Master’s verses conjured up suggestively, characterized as such sans the least solidity of form: this ephebe was an uncured, common clay jar, filled to overflowing with the riotous emotions of a New York-born child of working-class immigrants. So that the Master’s manner reconstituted in him was reborn every morning, driven by an adolescent’s spasmodic strivings, a blind, blinding Sehnsucht, despairings expressed in the fearful and fearsome cyclothymia that often erupts late into the second decade of life. And bulimia. And the terror of paranoia. Et cetera. Scarcely those mild, pastoral hootings attended to by some Sunday’s languid feminine soul at ease on a chaise in a comfortable bedroom, upstairs, overlooking her green and sweet-meadowed Connecticut countryside, faintly accompanied by the clashings of tiny ring cymbals, castanets or the maundering arpeggios of a viol or skilled fingers strumming a classical guitar. This ephebe’s French tradition came up confronted by inbred recollections of a slum beside the Marché aux Puces in Paris, of murdered maternal great-grandparents, shot unceremoniously to death in the ghetto of the Marais, their student assassin, for all one knew yet alive and rotting away on Devil’s Island: “A New Raskolnikov: Crime and Punishment in La Rue de Rosiers!” And on the father’s side, the remembered hammering hoofbeats of Cossack horses galloping to and fro along the right bank of the Dniester River in the tumultuous months of 1918 and 1919, the rattle of machine guns as Red and White cavalry overran that hapless hamlet called Izhvonits in Bessarabia. The effect was a symphonic cacophony when that nightmare of the remote past was mixed in a medley of bebop’s hyper-accelerated, driven counterpoint, those Prezzed, Dizzied, and Birded lightnings and thunder. Anxiety and influences imploding. Result: manic exhilaration:

MANIFESTO: ANARCHY

As we took the bashed in temples
of the moon in tow through
the cataracts of time and rolled
them seaward down to sink
years of prince and princess crowded
cheering on the banks of childhood,
jubilleeing for night’s drowned dogs
as we farewelled for the dawn….
And we brained the catch of ages
in our hold, drifting down
history’s nightmare river,
and our eyes flashing from the mast
spotted old men hidden crouching
where reeds like blinded stalks
of telescopes pointed broken
at fate’s old fading stars…
Hands over hands ran up our flag,
the sun shone full
for victory: we sang, we slaves,
for the capstan’s heave and ho
as we trawled leaping on shoals
of salmon into the tossed
brackish gulf, running now before
the land wind and riptide,
and our prow dipped deep as it drank
the typhoon blue world

Not that Stevens, the man revealed decades later in biography would have gratulated such ephebic hubris. Although its contrary corollary, a hurrah product of pure imagination in six quiet tercets, is a fair imitation of Stevens’ mode of allegorized landscape, even the compassionate yet hardnosed titling of this poem, its Pacific Ocean setting not that of a peak in Darien, but some vacant stretch of sand in Baja California:

SOME ARE CALLED, SOME NOT

His western sun was a flaming firebird
trailing low over the warm gulf of desire,
an agèd phoenix flapping down to rest.

The light was going from him. Bats rose up;
flittering from their ambush they hunted
his fleeing ghosts of hopes. The world grew blear.

From this tan Pacific strand hungrily
he’d scanned the waters; empty, all empty
save gulls who screamed and fretted over scraps.

Yet this was sacred world: here were no temples,
no constructs to cajole the mind, only
the naked embrace of primal sky, earth, sea.

Here this meditative youth had squatted
fasting, seeking, and found in the sea,
that mother of movings, mere sea, no source,

when the wretchedest hint from destiny
was all he asked. And he sat down and wept
as the seawind fought the dusk overhead.

And perhaps Stevens might have approved of a painting poem from that same sad suite of Schwärmerei, a vision from Dürer, the poet’s imagined self entering the nightly, lost, dark wood of a desolating urban landscape, only now in hendecasyllabics, and rhymed too, a self-assertive touch to disguise their provenance a little, the 18-year old collecting some non-taxable interest from his bond to the Master:

A DREAM OF DÜRER

Sooty hoarse siren, cry from the dark, mauls the night,
Hustles him from sleep. Somewhere from far, far it calls.
He goes. No sounds other than that horn, no light
Other. An insinuation of dawn, blue and chilled;
Sifted crystal powder hoars the town. Though it
Rimes on this gray world like faint music, he still
Stumbles into a mesh of silence; visions accost
Him with things like trees, gnarled, jib jabbering old
Laughter. He creeps on, mumbling St. George, hero’s name, lost
Once in this maze as he. On his phantom horse he meets
The phantom dragon. He fights; he dies. And resumes
His way, emerging in the morning on the streets.
Still dazed, hears through the day that forsaken shriek
Of his midnight express, a thousand expresses, each
Perhaps the signal. To errantry or error they call. If he break
His mission, what will his Lady say? His Lord, his God?
Forfeits then his liege; wanders, lazar begging with bell….
His bones will rot, swine root among them in the sod.

Not only is the debt plain, but so is the effort at self-liberation through rich language and an estheticized projection of a psychological crisis, with at the same time a terrible doubt about the curative efficacy of the dreams of words. The skepticism of Stevens is preserved, and clearly marked, his commitment to language too, and his way of intensifying variations on a theme. By such echoing a young poet made explorations into himself, something his model never did, never propounding dramas of the inner, unconscious life directly, not even in his plain-spoken last years. A good example is a fantasia of a poem the title of which is irrecoverable to me now:

…Nights he’d traveled, skulking along the reeds by day.
Downwind now he heard baying hounds, white beasts

swift as the river, coursing him, heard the long drums
of angry blacks thrumming behind him in the brakes.

His prize, pilfered from their temples of the moon,
the sacred offerings of Hamites, Tibuu, Fulah.

Tuareg, stank fierce in his pouch, already stinking
like his own living flesh that crawled in mud, dying in

the Sudan sun. As he, alas, these votive meats
will rot, these newcut foreskins, birth thongs like shriveled

sinews, bones’ ash of wizards mixed with a pocketful
of gnomic beads: red cords, glass bits — profound formula!

articles compact with juvescence, glory come again,
and he, the courier of gladdest tidings, Elixir

Vitae! his cry, he, night’s nuncio clean escaped
out of sleep’s darkest continent, his contraband

concocted of currents of pure mind: primitives
of mind’s most ancient crevasse, from far beneath all

animal concurrences or surgings, from the
scrapings of a last, a deepest floor of history,

where brine washes over periwinkles scattered
on a strand, that lone shore where beyond memory

once trysted moon, and stars, and simple sun,
that first cohabitation of innocent elements.

Ah, but his hopes are slaughtered now. The dogs of dawn
leap upon him, rend the dream. Tall spearmen jabbing

his corpse dismember a hero, spoil their despoiler,
toss his offal to the Nile, and return towards dark.

Crocodiles push off from flats, gobble his remains.
What vain hope of succor had he then from day, when

nothing attests his deed to the stranger who wakes
and tastes the rancid garbage of a mere dream?

Or, what man of day, which rules a hemisphere away,
can succor take from sleep, when jealous tribesmen catch

each day’s emissary sent to plunder night,
kill each knight of promise, who dies to reach his day?

One doubted, not merely because the Master also doubted in his endless self-communings, but for other reasons, perhaps much more potent, reasons compounded by the times. What youthful imagination could have absorbed the explosions at Hiroshima and Nagasaki, and the terror of the immanent destruction of the world presaged from now until the end of human time? What hopes could have remained green with the opening of the concentration, rather the extermination, camps? I was scarcely sixteen when those events stunned me. Theodor Adorno declared at that time all possibility of poetry was extinguished forever in Auschwitz. Celan adumbrated it and perished; after him the Hungarian poet János Pilinzsky also attempted the approach to absolute zero. Two years later, taking Stevens in, I made his work a vehicle for my own engine. But that engine was ticking over so fast, it never could have occurred to me that Stevens, long gone into middle age by then, had himself been unable to take in the decades of the great dictators and the convulsion of the World War; neither by means of his manner of speech nor in his imagination did he confront our post-war Western world’s lost civilization and its aftermath, nor even attempt to account for it. Where was this world revealed by the poets? Its new, powerful dreams and thoughts were to be found now in science, in psychology, technology, in anything but the poets, who as always looked at the present by looking at the past. We had no Gottfried Benn to say to us, as he had said to writers after World War I:

My generation still had certain literary residues from earlier ones to latch onto: father son problems, Antiquity, adventure, travel, social issues, fin de siècle melancholia, marital questions, themes of love. Today’s generation has nothing in hand anymore, no substance and no style, no education and no knowledge, no emotions and no formal tendencies, no basis whatever — it will be a long time until something is found again.

Addendum: confusion and bad writing alone does not make one a surrealist.

We found about us in the 1950s what was familiar enough: a sentimentalized consumerist culture that had no sense of the tragic, that had never known the tragic and did not understand it. We were yet to encounter the macabre farce of the debacle in Vietnam.

Yet one does not easily renounce a sight of one of the gates to the heaven of poetry. Yes, Walt Whitman was also there for me, and adored, but it was foolhardy to put on his singing robes: it would only come out Sandburg; or Norman Corwin; or Allen Ginsberg. (Although turning him over one could find satire or humor: Kenneth Fearing and Ogden Nash; or the endless Poundian prophetic of Kenneth Patchen. He had fared better in our century in French and in Spanish: to return him to America after 1945, when our Democratic vistas were obscured by the ineluctable subterranean undermining of totalitarian evil was no longer possible.)

At that time, Ginsberg was renouncing his youthful college years’ allegiance to the Elizabethans and Van Doren, and setting out his charming and zany adaptation of Whitman’s rodomontade, after having passed his qualifying exam with W.C. Williams. I couldn’t take that seductive and too-easy road, since I was attempting prose as well, Joyce having been the exemplary figure before my eyes from my fourteenth year. (What Ginsberg’s way amounted to in the end was put wittily by my friend the late Henri Coulette, whose couplet, “The Collected Poems of What’s His Face,” was published posthumously in 1990:

Sixteen thousand lines, give or take sixteen —
And no two lines that you can read between.

Oh, like Allen, one hankered after Blake and Whitman, and one took from Dylan Thomas: I alternated the prosody of my stories between the mean scrupulosities of DUBLINERS and the dithyrambics of Thomas (as in a story of my 22nd year, “Eat Aaron and the Night Rider,” published, incidentally, in the same number of ACCENT as Wallace Stevens’ “The Planet on the Table,” in 1953, which was admired by a graduate student editor named Stanley Elkin, who adapted that style and never left off, whereas, having done it for a few luminous pages I was through with all that.) Still, it had to be acknowledged that exactly fifty years stretched between Stevens and myself as ephebe, a whole half century, and those several different worlds of the world’s experience had intervened as well — his influence naturally was the cause of great anxiety. The struggle with and against and through Stevens, if indeed it was a struggle, is observable not only in the suppressed poems of my late teen years, but as it was to be repeated during the next decade, with my fealty given most of all to TRANSPORT TO SUMMER, the book that had hit me so very hard as an 18-year old, a sophomore, your true ephebe. Out of the 35 poems in my first published book (WHATEVER LOVE DECLARES, Plantin Press,1969), I would trace one, “Laboratory,” formally, to HARMONIUM.

LABORATORY

In this bottle you see morning
on this shelf is grass
here are specimens of turning,
nights which you must pass

love distilled from antique mirrors
tinctures made of breath
pills of joy and powdered terrors
things to ease your death

the formulas of secret fears
catalogues of dreams
the bones of hope, the flesh of tears
what is, and what seems

all, all has been found out, tested,
certified as true;
time alone must be invested:
we depend on you.

I’d acknowledge others as being indebted to Stevens’ succeeding books: such poems as a set of three savage things made up of tercets, called, “The Technique of Love,” “The Technique of Power,” “The Technique of Laughter.” Two others, “Philosophical Transactions at Montauk,” and “Katabolism, or, The Natural History of Love,” are made from what I acquired from the Stevens of TRANSPORT TO SUMMER, though, again, he might not have granted his seal to this epigone. Not because of what they look and sound like: 100-syllable stanzas, more or less, loose pentameters in 10-line stanzas that I thought I had found in TRANSPORT TO SUMMER. Such poems as the two I have just mentioned speak, it is true, in tones of lofty and tenderly ironic disinterest. But Stevens might have been irked because they are redolent of the flesh, soaked in its fevers, desperate for extrication, and helpless to achieve it – Well, I was in my early 20′s after all, and Stevens was a year or two from his end, and really had no strong desire for Woman, except as a distant form, perhaps. Possibly I was conflating “The Comedian as the Letter C” with parts of AURORAS OF AUTUMN. Still, though not the first attempt to say goodbye to the engorgements of sexuality, “Katabolism, or, The Natural History of Love” succeeds in its genially heroic accommodation of the overwhelmingly sensual and erotic to a view that is also, I think, Stevensesque by virtue of its remoteness, a somewhat cruelly tender yet achieved distancing of the knower from what he knows — the result being the sort of tension that I then thought made for the poetry in Stevens. As for instance:

The giant blooms amidst green damnation,
swollen ecstasies of this timeless realm,
elegant, unblessed. Old hothouse roaches
trot along lianas on their roach affairs.
Hot, hot beneath glass, the dour pineapple
and the sweetish lemon, greengold and thinskinned,
ripening sans honor: athletes and esthetes.
Fat frogs squat steaming in bowers of blood
and tumorous copper carp fin idly
at the conduit. There is nothing but life.
There is nothing but life but love. The pyre…

Or perhaps it was in the very fact of such tension that the poetry resided for me? Leaving youth’s youthfulness behind, no longer subjected helplessly to the imperious blows of the sensual fist, one learned how words both mitigated its hammering, yet somehow preserved its effects and its affect. By the time another 25 years had passed, one began to see that Stevens’ way with language was also Stevens’ way with the world and the flesh. And one saw too, something of his reticent, not to say bleak, heart, as cold as his imagination was hot. But, as an ephebe of 18, 19, 20, one adored those twinned devils, world and flesh, as one adores the inside of the pulpy fruit’s firm, ripened meat; one risked the gaudy, the sensational, the sentimental, the extravagant, and the obscene of passion. And much later too, one still does, decade after decade. Perhaps it is just a matter of temperament after all.

So that if one reached for the palpable, moving, odoriferous, bleeding yet resilient breathing body, if one loved the very life of the things of this world, one had to bid adieu to Stevens…at least until it was time to bid adieu to the inter-fleshings of the phenomenal world that were not merely language, and figurative, not merely the phantasmal Stevensesque “mind.” Or, if one had somehow come to suppress it, one learned the repressed always returns, as it did for me in my 40′s, in this elegy, a sort of paean and elegiac ode to Aphrodite. (Actually much of Stevens’ poetry, even that of his ephebe, was elegiac in nature, and is therefore something rooted in Classical poetry, as in the late Latin “Pervigilium Veneris.”) Where else, among one’s contemporaries of the 20th Century, would one have learned the lushness of metaphor, and learned to dare to use it sans embarrassment, but from Stevens? An homage to Stevens then, this poem from my third book, IN MEMORY OF THE FUTURE:

ON A WINGED PHALLUS, ROMAN,
BRONZE WITH BRONZE BALLS, THAT I GAVE MY FRIEND,
A TOKEN TO BE HUNG ON HIS KEY CHAIN


Asleep, curled in your pocket,
he waits, his wings quivering,
and with his two old friends dreams
of those moist, those blue mornings
before these shrinking, white days
that crack our chilled hearts like glass
came to tell us of winter

Do you remember those breasts?
How straight she walked, eyes opened,
her long arms held out, her hands
strong and tapered, cupped flowers,
offering you her friendship,
like the touch of love’s kindness
her smiling lips showed she knew?

Out of an early hour,
with a flecking of salt spume
you could taste on her shoulders
and her hair heavy with youth,
faint stars caught in its coiled ropes,
she had come to greet you, yes,
so that you would see, and know

And you woke, as though the sun
were waking too, round and warm,
and growing from her belly
as she stood there in silence,
waiting till you rose, and stood,
till you let your locked thoughts go
and welcomed her against you

Again! Again and again!
Don’t you remember her breasts?
that bright sky that shone on you
as the garden turned drifting
amongst those mountain orchards
and the sun pressed sweating down
on their swollen, dripping fruit?

And then she laughed, how she laughed!
her smooth limbs flung blazing wide
then wound round you tightening
as you thrashed in terror, trapped —
all that day long you struggled,
a beast, child, man — a young god
crying and singing and wild

as the hot red dusk crumbled
and fell in ashes on you
where you sprawled between wrecked walls
your bones burning themselves out
your mind staring at that sky,
cold, blind, black and high, so high….
Don’t you remember her, now?

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Jascha Kessler has published seven books of poetry and fiction, as well as six volumes of translations of poetry and fiction from Hungarian, Persian, Serbian and Bulgarian, several of which have been awarded major prizes.

Nov 30 2009

My Father’s Heart

One thing you should know about my father is that he has an abnormally large stomach. The kind of stomach that, if x-rayed, would reveal a picnic bench of five angry truck drivers demanding a 4th serving of fillet mignon and mushrooms (if they happen to be sautéed and available). With that being said, my dad is not a particularly overweight guy. In fact, he spends an hour on the elliptical every morning and works out compulsively every weekend. He’s in good shape for a sixty year old and he’s got a hell of a heart, or so I thought.

When he called me a few days ago and said that he had a “widow maker,” which translates to “a severe blockage in the left main coronary artery,” I sunk a bit, but not too deeply. For some reason I was never worried. Perhaps I was in denial, perhaps I was being insensitive, but I knew he would make it through this setback. While undergoing the scheduled procedure this past Wednesday, the doctor discovered that four arteries leading into and from the heart were 95% clogged, contrary to the prior finding of one 67% blockage. While only one stent was originally planned for the procedure, four stents were used, and in the heat of the moment bi-pass surgery was deemed unnecessary. Hence, my dad made it through with only one complication: he now had cardiac arrhythmia.

Cardiac arrhythmia― abnormal electrical activity in the heart that causes it to beat too fast, or too slow, and can result in cardiac arrest, a stroke, or sudden death.

After the operation the doctors tried to correct this side effect by attempting two separate procedures involving two different sets of cardiac drugs, but had no success. To prepare for the third procedure, they shaved his chest, doped him with lithium and morphine, and shocked his heart with defibrillator paddles in the hope that they could reset the rhythm. They were unsuccessful, even after a second electrifying attempt.

So when I arrived in the Critical Care Unit for Arrhythmia at 6:40pm in the Bronx this past Wednesday, I could see that my dad was in a hospital fog of catheters, drugs, and machines that chirped every couple of seconds.

“Simon, It hasn’t gone away yet. There’s an extra beat in there, you see the monitor?” He pointed at ECG, it wasn’t a beautiful symmetry. “They’re going to try another procedure at 12:00 tonight.”

“Dad, I think we should try a visual meditation.”

“Ah Simon, I don’t know”

“I think we should, okay?”

“How long is it gonna take?”

“A couple of minutes, but if we really focus, who knows what could happen.”

“Bob, try it, it can work,” Joanne (my dad’s wife) added, who was also in the room with us.

I was expecting a southern eye roll, but he consented, “Okay.”

I pulled a chair to his bedside, placed my left hand on top of his heart, and started to relax myself. I felt a familiar tingle in my hands and began: “Take a deep breath in, and slowly let it out. Take another deep breath in, and slowly let it out. In the center of your heart, you see a beautiful, calming, rejuvenating white light. A light that, with each breath, grows in its love, warmth, and healing abilities. A light that calms you, and brings your heart back to its ideal state, a state of love, a state of health, a state….” And we continued this meditation for another 10 minutes until a nurse opened the door and asked us to leave so that she could change his catheters. “It’s also a shift change, so you’ll have to wait outside the CCU till 7:30,” a half hour away. I took my hand off his chest and walked out as she pulled the hospital sheets off his legs.

Thirty minutes later we walked back in and my dad looked at us. “I have something to tell you. When you left the room the nurse looked at the monitor and realized that my heart was back to its normal rhythm.” The ECG showed a different symmetry. “You did it. I always believed in meditation, you know, I used to meditate myself.”

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Simon Bresler is a spiritual healer living in New York.